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"This book will be an invaluable tool for any family considering adoption. It provides insight and wisdom
to a process that requires...patience and prayer."
Christy R. Little,
General Sessions Judge,
Division II, Madison County, Tennessee
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Am I Ready To Adopt
From "Winning at Adoption", 1990 The Family Network
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I feel comfortable going public with my adoption plan. |
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I'm okay with the idea that my child won't be patterned after me. |
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I'm feeling okay about myself - accepting all of me (even the infertility part!). |
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Both of us are feeling ready to go forward with an adoption plan.
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(If Single) I've considered and found an appropriate opposite sex role model for my child-to-be.
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I've looked honestly at the finances of adopting and parenting, and feel confortable with them.
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I've thought about what I expect from this child, and what I'm prepared to give. I'm not expecting
this adoption to make me pregnant, to fix a bad marriage, or to fill an empty life.
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I've looked at all the elements this child will bring to my family (religious, racial, medical, ethnic),
and am ready to accept him/her with them, not in spite of them.
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I admit that adoption is a second choice - I would have chosen to bear my own child. But it's a choice I am embracing.
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I no longer avoid the baby departments of stores, children's birthday parties, and showers. I can fantasize about
naming a baby, decorating a room, being a parent without bursting into tears.
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I have time to spend with a child, and want to make time in my life for a child. My lifestyle accommodates children.
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I'm ready to make the time, money and energy sacrifices necessary to be a parent. To make them willingly and
lovingly, because this is what I want to do.
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realize that adoptive and birth parenting are not the same, that there are losses for everyone and gains for everyone,
and I'm prepared to accept the extra challenges involved in this role.
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I can imagine my child not just as a baby, but as a toddler, a teen, and adult. I realize that my
parenting role will last a lifetime.
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